I have a problem. Usually, I reach an orgasm with the first sixty seconds (or less). My SO obviously doesn’t enjoy it. Is there any way to fix it?
Thank you for being so honest! If you can’t control your orgasm, that means you have a form of premature ejaculation. It’s hard to tell which type and how severe it is based on your short question, but we will try to do our best. We are going to give you a few pieces of advice applicable to all types of PE.
First off, you need to understand that PE is insanely common, it affects about 35% of men at some points in their lives. There’s nothing to be ashamed of. You need to have an honest heart-to-heart conversation with your partner about this. Maybe newfound confidence will solve the problem?
Oftentimes, PE stems from psychological issues. Maybe you will have to reduce your stress at work, maybe you will have to work out some problems in your relationship. The best-case scenario for you would be to pinpoint the root cause of your anxiety.
Now, the tips. You can strengthen your pelvic muscles via exercise. You can slow down one you feel like you’re getting close. You can try the stop-start method (pause completely and wait for the urge to ejaculate to go away). You can try the squeeze technique as well. There are also some medications, gels, and thick condoms that can help you out. Find further information online, maybe combine two methods for extra efficiency. Good luck with your research! Don’t lose hope, premature ejaculation is entirely treatable.